Dating a pregnant girl
I was in the middle of interviewing a popular yoga teacher for a magazine story when I saw my phone light up. Still, what he described as his “sense of betrayal” struck me as extreme. Without much time to explain, I asked the yogi to hold my hand. My mother reminded me, as she always does, that there’s a halo above me. When I explained that I used a sperm donor, they were comforted but confused. And to be fair, I’d waited until about 20 minutes in, because our banter seemed so fluid and fun.We read all the articles and listened to our doctors who warned that it could be six months-to-a-year before pregnancy so I was genuinely surprised I got pregnant so quickly.As we sat looking at the third positive pregnancy test, I excitedly and nervously thought about who we would tell first: parents, siblings, in-laws, and that fantastic man who I started dating.That some point for me, was right at the beginning. If you tell them at the start and they dont accept than its good you didnt invest your time. I actually told every guy at the beginning, hey im pregnant. Not gross :) Although getting pregnant while single isn't ideal, I think it definitely has a benefit over getting pregnant either unplanned/accidentally or with the assumption/hopes that the guy would stick around, because then you KNOW from day 1 that you're on your own.That way, you don't waste any time pining after a guy who doesn't want to be there for you and/or the baby.I like one of them, but it's really early (both the pregnancy and relationship). Is it gross to date (and have sex) while you're pregnant & is it stupid to potentially get my feelings caught up and have to drop a major bombshell at some point? Im pregnant with an ex and we are still exs, Iv had some guys ask me out on dates and I refuse, I can't imagine sex with them either.It would all be too weird to me to be with another man while pregnant with another mans baby lol.
Also, even though I’d gotten pregnant on my own terms, I didn’t want to close the door on love.Some tests can detect the very low level that is present several days after fertilization (before a menstrual period is missed). During the first 60 days of a normal pregnancy with one fetus, the level of human chorionic gonadotropin in the blood approximately doubles about every 2 days.These levels can be measured during the pregnancy to determine whether the pregnancy is progressing normally. I ended my yogi interview with as much Zen as possible, which was not much, then ran into the street, screaming. I didn’t add “pregnant” to my profile, because taken out of context it does raise a lot of questions (even I can admit that), and I didn’t want a guy creating the wrong narrative for me. After one sperm donor, two intrauterine inseminations and thousands of dollars paid to the NYU Fertility Center, I was pregnant. Maybe I’d meet a single father or a modern romantic like me. One night I logged on to Tinder, not for the first time (British Marcus had come and gone—he was cute but little else).